This is something that I have really been noticing over the past few

years. I have no problem with the concept of a serious relationship

but I do need a reason to fully commit and be with one woman and

settle down. I’m pretty sure a lot of men feel exactly like I do on some

level. Why put any effort into a boring or otherwise detached union

with a member of the opposite sex when a better situation is out

there and I’m still searching for something or someone better to

come along? It may be a sign of the times. I hear this same comment

for women all the time: They say that the guy that she is dating has no

time for her and then you find out the reason why is because he is

always at work. This is a part of growing up. Somebody has to be

employed in order for the household bills to get paid. They seem to be

more interested in the type of guy who lives off her and various other

women. They will often chase of an emotionally unavailable male

suiter who has no interest in being with her. Then they complain

that they cannot find a good man. And when they do find a man

who adores her and the ground that she walks her she will treat him

like a second class citizen. This may have something to do with their

biological impulse to procreate with one of those alpha males who

spread their seed without thinking about any consequences or future

outcomes. It is all fun and games until children get introduced into

this scenario. Then they end up fighting like hens for this irresponsible

rooster’s attention. Many members of the female gender will disagree

with my assertions but the it is obvious to the others around them.

I have also observed the relationship dynamics of many women

involved with good responsible men. Many of these women put

little or no romantic effort into their relations with them unless

another female notices his good qualities. Then they will fight to

keep him when she should have been putting more interest in her

affiliation with him. This is exactly how men get entangled with

a side chick or mistress. Women get too comfortable instead of putting

more interest in their relationship or marriages. They will deny that

this is going on in the first place. I see it all the time. I’m basically

saying that if you love the man you are with show him some extra

affection sometimes. Cook him a special meal. Show him some

romantic interest sometimes. Continue to build on your situation

and make it better. The reason for being together is to grow as a

couple and endure every aspect of life as a loving unit. We all get

caught up in the demands of everyday life but if you are sharing

your life with someone special show them that you care. Show them

the love you have for them while you build a future together.